#SCS: Pick Up The Phone!
"I sustain myself with the love of family"
- Maya Angelou
We’ve seen some ways to take care of yourself on a Sunday, but another way to really take care of yourself is to connect with those closest to you. Whether or not you meet up with a group of friends for brunch, or go sit in the park with your best friend, catching up with those you love is a really good way to take care of yourself. The way I achieve this consistently is by calling my family.
Of course I talk to my family throughout the week, but on Sundays, I sit down and make sure to talk to all three members of my immediate family. This Sunday tradition began when I was a little girl, and we would talk to my grandfather on Sunday evenings. I vividly remember telling him all about school that week, or what my choir was doing when I got a bit older. The call was never very long, maybe 10 or 15 minutes, but it was a necessary tradition for us. It was an unbroken tradition up until he passed away, so Sunday has always felt like a natural day to reach out and call.
When I moved away from my hometown (Las Cruces!) 10 years ago, I was constantly calling my family, but as I’ve gotten older and learned to live away from them, Sunday became the go-to date to call my mother. We usually talk for about 30-45 minutes about everything that’s happened over the week. A little over a year ago, I began calling my dad on Sundays too, and we sort of fell into a groove with that. If I don’t call him first, he calls me. My mom is the same way. I talk to my sister every day, but of course I talk to her on this day as well. It makes me feel better when I have talked to everyone, especially if it’s been a particularly rough week or I just need to hear their voices.
Checking in with those I love is a big part of my self-care ritual. Catching up on the goings-on of my hometown is good for my soul, and hearing what’s going on with my family keeps me going. Of course, we text and keep in communication throughout the week, but knowing there will be a time when I sit down, take a minute to breathe, and connect with my family really helps me set the tone for the week.
If you want to start up a Sunday tradition, perhaps you can add some flair to it. If talking on the phone isn’t really your thing perhaps set up a Skype/FaceTime date with someone? Make it fun, and pretend you’re at brunch! That way, you can have that catch-up time, and maybe a mimosa and pancakes. And, the video chatting can be more than two people, so you could connect on an even grander scale, and have some serious hang time.
Whatever you do on Sunday, and every other day of the week, I hope you find some joy and true happiness. Remember to take care of yourself so you can be the best you can be every day. We all deserve that!